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Intimacy – “Spiritual Evolution of Lovers”
When lovers become
one, with a deep and natural feeling of trust and innocence between
them, where there’s no defenses, inhibitions, fears, or moral judgments
going on, rapport can be naturally established and they can share fully
in each others experiences. When achieving a state of intimacy that
inhabits the deepest and most natural form of trust as bonding, we can
witness each others life, by listening to our stories and recapturing
the experience as accurately as possible in our own imagination which is
almost the same as having the experience ourselves. We get to
practically double the amount of meaningful experiences we have because
we step into and acquire the experiences from each other. This is
especially true in terms of highlights, thoughts and the debates they
invoke, and the moral lesson inherent within them that helps us to grow
by being able to define ourselves in relationship with the experiences
themselves.
Further bonuses
are offered by the mere fact that it’s usually opposing viewpoints as
man and woman sharing experiences that emphasize different qualities and
perspectives other than our own. Because our Spiritual development
comes by way of life experiences, by acquiring more experience, we act
to directly facilitate each others spiritual growth. The ability to do
this however, takes skillful practice that will not only allow you to
acquire their experiences, but form natural intimacy at the same time
that creates a sense of deep bonding in the relationship itself which is
deeply gratifying for both people.
To witness
another’s life, is to gain rapport, become fully present with them, and
as they talk and tell you about the experience, you listen carefully and
picture it as clearly as you can in your imagination while taking on the
same perspective and the feeling emotional quality of it as the meaning
it had, while making it as life-like as possible. Imagine it, not from
a critical perspective of wanting or feeling the need to change the
telling, or correct and reinterpret it somehow, but as if you are
actually having it in the same manner that they did, looking at it the
same way and feeling the same way about it. In this you will literally
become of the same mind as the other and can recapture the experience as
an impression with striking accuracy. You not only acquire the
experience as a form of mental-emotional diversity, but gain an intimate
understanding of your lover at the same time. Not as you would have
them be, but as they actually are.
The act of
witnessing as forming union perceptually and emotionally with your
lover, creates rapport as energetic sympathy, which literally alters
each persons vibration by forming resonance. We become like each other
in the realest sense. The act of being able to share fully without
judgment or commentary allows healing of the same idea for both people.
What tends to cause problems in the ultimate sense is when we repress
feeling experiences because we are made wrong somehow, or can’t actually
express it because someone is reacting to it, or we’re afraid of how
they will react, so we edit it, or we feel embarrassed or ashamed
somehow, so we hold back and create an entirely private aspect our self
that becomes our shadow aspect. Instead of expressing, we maintain the
feeling emotion inside and it develops into a complex. We then hide
things from our partner not out of maliciousness or intentional deceit,
but because we are not given a safe space to share our feelings as they
really are without fear of retaliation somehow.
When we share
openly and step into each others experiences having them as one, it
grows us as it heals us in the most expediential way possible. Growth is
greatly accelerated for both people. This creates the type of
environment that will cause us to stretch, elevate and employ our best
qualities born out of our virtues. The act of witnessing by merging
with and into one another, allowing free and spontaneous expression as
the most primary form of compassion heals both people simultaneously of
the same feeling-emotional issue. This type of healing is miraculous in
nature because it heals at the level in which the issue was incurred,
preventing it from becoming an issue because it is never repressed to
begin with. This is the true meaning of prevention. To be able to
express ourselves fully in the presence of unconditional love has an
instant healing effect as well as a lingering euphoric contentment.
Love expands fully into itself while in a relaxed state. Trust and
compassion open us with a natural desire to joyfully expand into it,
relax and release.
So marriage in its
highest potential, connects us, grows and expands us, while
simultaneously healing us. And the best part is it does it through the
greatest form of pleasure there is. Love that’s demonstrated, made real
by doing it. It works in the most positive and beneficial way possible
. . . through personal and spiritual fulfillment that creates a deep
feeling of contentment as bliss. Our whole being is saturated with the
most beautiful of all experiences that exists in a natural state of
unity as holistic and breathtakingly erotic that merges into us, and
moves us at our very depths.
Genius if you ask me!!
J
Linda Gadbois, DES., CCHt. |
