Godseeds –“Soul’s Essence as a
Dynamic Living System”
Rapport – “The
Art of Equilibrium and the Science of Compassion”
Rapport is one of the
greatest magical arts that can be mastered. Rapport can be thought of as a form
of equilibrium where two or more forms of consciousness align, blend together
and form mental/emotional coherence. You can literally step into another
person’s consciousness and perceive their mental impressions, the nature of
their thoughts and feelings around various experiences that they’ve had. In
hypnosis a skilled practitioner can induce a deep trance state using nothing but
rapport. Once rapport has been achieved, they can literally perceive the same
imagined experiences as the person that is in the hypnotic trance. This can
give us greater insight into deeper meaning of compassion, not as a form of
empathy, but as being able to actually merge with, become one with another and
have the same experience as they are. This is to know life truly from their
perspective. When this is bridged by holding space where all judgment is
relinquished and unconscious aspects are allowed uninhibited expression, it
produces an instant healing affect by resolving karmic issues that resulted from
unconscious patterns that acted out shadows aspects of the personality.
To gain rapport is to enter
into the same state as another by matching their physiology. The three minds
are always in alignment as our “state”. What we are focused on (mental images),
the meaning it has (what we are telling ourselves about what we are focused on)
and what we are doing with our body are always a direct reflection of the same
consciousness. By entering into sync with our whole physiology we can match
their state-of-mind and literally see the same mental impressions and have the
same feelings about what we are seeing as they do. This is a basic form of mind
reading that allows us to merge with the experience of another at the conscious
level.
Healing through the art of
witnessing, a form of true compassion that is not empathizing with another, but
rather becoming like them and having not only the same experience as they are
but perceiving it in the same way also. By entering into another person or
entities field of consciousness we literally read their mind by experiencing
their thoughts and feelings while having the experience from their perspective
and as interpreted through their mental and emotional filters. In one sense, we
literally possess them.
Reincarnation is the purest
form of compassion because the same soul – quality of consciousness – obtains
knowledge through the actual experience of a wide range of combinations as
gender, era, cultures, race, conditions, relationships, professions, etc., and
apprehends knowledge not only from the perspective of momentary experiences, but
from a lifetime of an evolving experience through various stages from birth to
death. The soul’s evolution is by obtaining knowledge in the highest possible
way, by living it. We can only truly learn from experience. We can only work
consciously with what we are aware of and have a working understanding of.
Understanding only comes from doing it.
True healing is allowing
without judgment and simply staying present in a neutral and unbiased state
where no resistance is present to inhibit. To be able to relate deeply with
another or with a particular type of experience is because we are tapping on our
memory of a similar life experience that allows us to relate to them. To view
our own soul’s essence in a different expression, outside of our current
beliefs, values, morals, and conditioning allows aspects of ourselves that we
are currently repressing to be fully expressed, discharging them energetically
from our system, healing and equalizing our energy back into a balanced state.
Once this happens they no longer exist as a possibility for expression within
our system.
Through the science of
magnetism, and learning how to use it proficiently, you can conquer difficulties
and imperfections by learning the skills necessary to command nature at will.
Through the hypnotic technique of body relaxation, directing consciousness,
fixation, suggestion and sensory imagination, you can literally magnetize your
material mind with the object of your desire. By anesthetizing the body,
relaxing it to the point of losing all awareness of it, allows the imagination
free reign. We can enter into a state of pure experience free of all
distraction. By fixating your attention, stating and repeating a suggestion
while creating a sensory experience of it in your imagination, creates a form of
memory that can act to program your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind,
which is experiential in nature, operates out of memory. Memory can be created
either through actual experience, or imagined experiences.
The imagination is not
merely “visual” or a form of visualization, but rather the ability to use all of
your senses to create a life-like experience of a desired idea. You imagine the
desired idea as if you are actually having the experience of it. As you focus
on it, you say a form of affirmation which sets an intention for the experience,
then imagine what you are seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling tasting, and what
you are telling yourself (internal dialogue) about the experience. This not
only creates a memory of your desired experience, but you simultaneously
identify with it, which shifts your identity in accordance with it, which
magnetizes it.
Relax your body to the
point of losing awareness of it. Focus your attention on what you desire to
magnetize. Initiate a powerful suggestion as a form of affirmation that is
spoken with emotional intensity. Then, pause and feel the sensation. Create it
as an actual experience that has emotional impact. Feel the sensations of the
experience as deeply as you can. See, hear, feel and tell yourself a story about
the idea you are fixated on.
Whatever we experience we
relate to and identify with. If we desire union with a physical reality, then
we remain identified in our everyday life. By releasing attachment to getting
our sense of our self through our material possessions, roles and external
stimulus, we can enter into a state of union with Universal consciousness and
create experiences that we can identify with. Our individual consciousness can
begin identifying with Universal consciousness. When we can do this
successfully, the whole Universal magnetic field is under our command. The mind
has the ability to command the natural elements and direct living forces into
various material expressions. It engages in a cooperative flow. In an expanded
state of cooperative flow, all resistance subsides and a quickening takes
place. We transcend time and experience eternity.
On the individual plane of
existence, our body, physical senses and mind are magnetized and are completely
under our control. Magnets are created through alignment. In a trance state
the whole body becomes magnetized and it fills with an electromagnetic
concentration, vibration, and pulsation that form coherence. It produces
physical changes as natural correspondences. The body is void of pain,
breathing is reduced and becomes occasional, heart falls into sync with the
rhythms of the earth and circulation of the blood becomes more effectual. Every
particle of our body begins pulsating with increased blood flow, energy and a
feeling of magnetism. We can feel the pull of a gravitational field produced by
our imagination. In advanced states, you enter into a kind of Universal rapport
that feels like you are apart of a whole atmosphere and universal field
vibrating in sync that creates an experience of euphoria. It forms a kind of
all-pervading pulsation that creates at once an expanding and contracting
feeling. You expand into and become apart of your desire, then pull it back and
into yourself in the same experience as a rhythmic flow or kind of cosmic
dance.
All physical and mental
illness and disease are released from the system through a form of magnetism.
Where we become an open conduit for energy to flow as a union and alignment with
a higher state of being where disease doesn’t exist. The energetic reality of
that state acts to modify our current energetic state by equalizing all
imbalances and bringing the whole system back into a harmonious state of it’s
origin. Through an advanced form of hypnosis or guided meditation, you can
become your own surgeon and operate on your own mind, removing the cause of
disease from your physical body. The body is the physical manifestation of the
mind. Advanced states of meditation and hypnosis allow you to construct a
bridge between the physical and the metaphysical. Between Mind and matter. As
above, so below. As within, so without.
Curiosity is the magnetism of Knowledge. Just
having curiosity around something magnetizes it and creates a form of
gravitational pull between us and the subject of our curiosity. If we don’t
know much about a subject, it’s because we don’t feel curious about it. Our
mind is governed and activated by curiosity. Whenever we wonder about
something, inquire, and try to anticipate it, we form a magnetic field that
draws information to us as answers to our inquiry. Curiosity as a magnetic field
is a primary state of mind that exists at, and works the same for everyone.
Whenever we don’t know something about a subject that interests us, we form
curiosity around it. We wonder about it, and next thing you know we are coming
across information about it, or forming insights into it.
The mind has a natural
function called our Reticular Activating System, or RAS, which is what we could
call the “seek, find, and point it out” function of the mind. Whenever we
wonder about something, we literally program out mind to search our environment
for the answers. The power of reasoning and questioning is that everything in
existence has a reason, a purpose for being as a natural manifestation of the
Law of Cause and Effect, and that questions and their answers are polar
opposites of the same thing. Just like giving and receiving describe opposite
ends of the same act. When we form curiosity around a subject, we activate the
forces that create an awareness of the whole process. Our RAS scans and
searches the environment for what it deems possible answers or valuable
information and then brings it to our attention. We not only notice it, but
realize its significance. It’s the function of the brain that directs our
attention to things in our environment.
One of the most basic
functions of the mind as our electromagnetic energy field surrounding our body
is one of anticipation. It is always asking . . . “what’s next?” It is in a
constant state of anticipation. This is to allow us to prepare for what’s
coming. Through curiosity, answers take a long time to come, because they come
in a way that cultivates complete understanding. The answers are full, diverse
and come in many forms as living examples. We gain a full sense of knowledge
around our inquiries. Curiosity, like desire, is the minds natural way of
leading us in an enticing manner to acquire more and more information about
things that interest us. We form a kind of intrigue, inquisitiveness that forms
a fascination around an idea or subject. This is experienced as a very positive
emotion with a clear magnetic quality. We can literally sense the magnet draw
to the answers of what fascinates us.
When we become aware of the
answers, or are given information and have direct experiences that serve as
answers to our deepest questions, we experience a form of awe around the magical
quality in which the answers appear to have come. We get to experience first
hand that quality of the mind that we use naturally as a means of development to
gain knowledge through experience through our ability to form a magnetic field
between us and the object of our desire. It defies logic because it can’t be
explained and can only be perceived through personal experience. The experience
of drawing answers and knowledge to us has a quickening feeling of elation and
excitement around receiving the answers.
Curiosity, in the most
basic sense is the natural precursor for learning. Learning that is of a
personal nature that serves our development in a very intimate way and seems
designed to move us in specific directions. Curiosity has a magnetic quality to
it that you can literally feel and sense as things come to you. Curiosity is a
positive emotion as a natural function that can consume you with a feeling of
fascination and awe. It makes learning a very pleasurable and fulfilling
experience. One that as you acquire real knowledge of the things that fascinate
you, causes you to marvel at the exquisite beauty and perfection of things that
fills you with overwhelming feelings of gratitude. A feeling of “thanks” for
making the experience of learning a discovery that’s fun and adventurous. When
we learn through experience, we learn thoroughly and integrate the knowledge in
such a way that it becomes a part of us. The knowledge becomes built in to our
muscle.
Curiosity has the added
feature of engaging our intuition as the means of discovery. It sets into
motion not only the natural faculties of seeking, but also our intuitive ability
to perceive of ideas, activities, books, articles, songs, and people that we
meet as delivering the knowledge we crave in the most appropriate way possible.
The universe, conscious and alive, responds to us intimately by revealing its
secrets. When we think about what we desire to know more about, images, ideas,
and thoughts pop into our head in association with or to them. If these ideas
are thought about, investigated, pursued, or actively engaged in they form a
synchronistic unfolding of ideas that provide with the answers in a rich, deep
and provocative way. The answers don’t come through others opinions, but rather
through experiences that speak to us personally and seem perfect for our
understanding through specific applications within our lives that provide it in
the most beneficial and meaningful way possible. This is what gives it a
magical quality.
We never find singular,
point-blank answers, but rather and interwoven array of answers that give us a
well-rounded knowledge from different perspectives, through different
applications, or as associated to an entire web of knowledge. It comes to us
through the principle of unity and interconnectedness, through which we
experience it as profound and as expanding our awareness of life itself in all
its diversity.
One of the problems with
our current educational system is that it’s focused almost exclusively on
left-brained, rational processes that deliver knowledge through opinion of
others, dictation or purely intellectual means that lacking the experience,
fails to engage the curiosity and imagination of the students in the adventure
of discovery. It fails to acknowledge learning as an individual experience and
instead lumps everyone together and provides them with written facts as lifeless
formulas for achievement. Yet learning as a natural experience is provoked by
curiosity and a deep desire to know something. The acquisition of the knowledge
sets into motion an intuitive process that’s like a treasure hunt that we are
joyfully led through with a series of clues, coincidences and bits of
information that form endless facets and unfold through a synchronistic process
of one thing leading to another.
Knowledge comes to us and
builds upon itself in an ideal fashion by first constructing a basis, then
endlessly expounding on it, filling it in with rich details and variations
forming a natural ecological system. Knowledge is a living force that exists in
a state of interconnectivity and balance with all of life through a constant
flux of evolution. Knowledge is NOT stagnate, fixed, or absolute. It is a
living force that grows, expands, unfolds and infolds, transforming and evolving
like a musical composure that moves us through an emotional landscape of
ever-changing seasons. It’s all nature, but every time we look at it appears
different in some way and we see something in it that we couldn’t see before.
The most primary level of development lies in mastering your state-of-mind. This
is the premise out of which everything else spontaneously and naturally arises
as a harmonious correspondence. When we cultivate a loving state-of-mind or mood
– fill ourselves with feelings of reverence – the only thoughts, emotions and
images that can arise in us are ones of a loving nature. All of our behavior
becomes a natural expression of love, honor and reverence.
Our state-of-mind as
our primary “quality of energy” determines what we form resonance with in our
environment. Our state forms our primary lens that we look thru, and only “see”
what warrants that same quality. It determines what we are able to perceive at
any given moment. We not only see all of life in a loving way, but we also are
able to see all things in their essence. We can see the essence of life itself
which exists in a primary state of non-judgment and therefore ultimate
perfection. To look through the eyes of love is to see life void of judgment,
opinion, description, definition or personalized interpretation – we see them as
pure, innocent and undistorted by our energetic influence.
When we create an
internal state of reverence, we activate those same qualities in others, calling
them forth, causing them to rise to the surface, impose an influence that shifts
or modifies their state accordingly, and influences the nature of their
expression. Whatever quality we choose to embody, acts as a catalyst to activate
those same qualities through our vibration, presence and behavior everywhere we
go and with whomever we meet. We create personal expressions “out of” that
state, as a quality of energy that we look through and see all of life as a
correspondence of. What we give our attention to, how we focus our mind
determines what we give life to by agreeing to allow it to express through us.
We first choose, employ, activate in others, then interact with “like” energy as
qualities of being all around us as a fundamental means of creating.
If we choose to become
the expression of joy, we cultivate feelings of joy within our self, and our
thoughts and emotions match the quality of joy forming harmony as a natural
alignment. We then look for and notice only what warrants “joy”, as we place our
attention on it, it stimulates the qualities of “joy” within it that rise to the
surface and become and become available for expression. We then “step into”
(remain present and interact with) the experience of joy, and apprehend those
qualities for ourselves through the “experience” of them. This strengthens the
quality of joy as a personal expression in both people.
This is very easy to see
in terms of noticing how different people, depending on their mood or attitude,
bring out certain qualities in others. People who are happy and upbeat can shift
the energy in a room just by walking into it. This also gives us distinct clues
on what it takes, or what the actual method is for “bringing out” the best
qualities in people, or the worst. This is a direct demonstration of the Law of
Resonance and Correspondences.
Linda Gadbois,
Ph.D.(c), CCHt.
Educator, Trainer & Mentor for
Creative Mind Development & Personal Transformation
Once we gain a fundamental
understanding of the principles governing the mind, we can begin to appreciate
the power of language that is basically conceptual and serves in nature as a
form of metaphor that creates a pattern or pathways for expression. The mind
needs to form a concept of something in order to gain a “working understanding”
of it. Once we understand how something works, not only can we use it
intentionally, but it automatically indicates what action to take that is
inherent within it. When we understand, we know what to do and how to do it.
When we further understand that all language is conceptual, we can appreciate
the significance of the words we use in first creating an internal
representation of ideas as we imagine them, and then use this representation to
form the basis for our perceptions that we then use to communicate with others.
In understanding this basic premise, we can then see how it is that we literally
‘call forth” reality by how we talk about it, by what story we tell that creates
a living concept of it. A concept serves as a form of map, diagram or model for
composing a storyline that gives all things meaning.
If we look at the basic
principles governing the mind and how it functions, we can then learn how to
more effectively use it. If we picture the conscious mind and subconscious mind
as opposing aspects of the same thing, and we realize that they play different
parts in constructing the same reality, we can begin to appreciate the
importance of what is commonly referred to as alignment, or atonement. If we
don’t understand this basic premise, the minds serve to counteract and
contradict one another. We create a magnet, by taking the basic element of iron,
and aligning all the particles of its basic composition it to face the same
direction, to form an alignment. The function of the conscious mind is
primarily creative as a form of self expression through its innate ability to
first choose and the will power to act it out. The subconscious mind functions
by merely maintaining the current status of the organism by accessing memory to
repeat patterns that have already been established and conditioned into the
system. It does not chose or impose a new direction on the system, but rather
takes direction from the conscious mind which presents it with a concept that
serves as a pattern that the subconscious mind then automates and acts out
naturally.
The subconscious mind, however
does not communicate via abstract “thinking” language like the conscious mind
does, but rather through imagined scenarios that replicate an actual experience
as feelings. It is sensory based and memory oriented. The mind doesn’t know the
difference between a real experience and an imagined one. If we imagine a
situation with enough clarity and sensory enhancement, as if it is actually
happening and we are experiencing it, it programs the subconscious mind with a
pattern for acting it out automatically.
When we use the term “want”, it indicates that we don’t
have. If we don’t have something, the mind forms a perception of needing to get
it. If we have to get it . . . it imagines it as being “out there somewhere”
instead of “in here”. It kicks the object of desire out into the “space-time
continuum” and creates distance between the object of desire and the desire
itself. When we create a concept of needing time in order to acquire something,
it allows the subconscious mind, whose only interest is in maintaining the
current behavioral patterns and conditions, to act in a way that sabotages the
conscious desire. This is largely due to the fact that while the conscious mind
has the power to direct the subconscious, it often doesn’t realize it does, and
the conscious mind is “checked-out” and preoccupied, and therefore not “present”
most of the time, in which the subconscious mind runs the system and simply
repeats established experiences.
Once we understand this, we can
become much more effective and learn the skills necessary to create with a sense
of purpose and intention. This is why there is always an emphasis on acting “as
if” you already have what you desire. It literally programs the subconscious
mind with an idea as an actual experience or fact, which then forms a kind of
“memory” that it can then use to create a similar experience in the present
moment. It can do this without the conscious mind needing to be present to
direct it.
So when you have a desire for something, first hold it
in your mind and imagine it as vividly as possible using sensory terms: what are
you seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, tasting and what are you telling
yourself about the experience (internal dialogue). When you get it just the way
you like it as a form of “movie” that you’re living, run it through your mind
several times in a repetitive manner. This conditions the mind with and
imprinted image that it can use as a template. Then allow yourself to experience
a sense of gratitude and give thanks in whatever way is meaningful for you . . .
this acts to form a “feeling expectation” for the desired outcome as an actual
experience.
Harmony”Creating the Atmosphere for natural Ecology”
In all “magical operations” (art
of manifesting) the basic premise for setting up a process for manifestation is
based on creating the right atmosphere out of which the manifestation emerges as
a natural and spontaneous process of correspondences. This can easily be thought
of as the atmospheric conditions that naturally spawn and sustain an ecological
system with it. If the climatic conditions do not support the life form, it will
not emerge naturally nor will it survive if introduced artificially. Another way
we can easily understand this is by thinking of our general “mood” as being the
atmosphere and climate of our mind. If we are in a happy and elated mood, all
thoughts and emotions that naturally form while in that mental state are of a
happy and positive manner. The state will not naturally produce unhappy or sad
thoughts, and even if they are introduced, they will either not last long, or
they will act to transform our mood.
Beliefs, which exist in a
“system” and interact accordingly, have the ability to order and organize all
general information to form an experience that at once demonstrates the belief
to be true and therefore real, by first validating it, then by providing
supporting evidence that is designed to prove it. In order for a belief to
automatically manifest as a personal reality, it must be congruent with the
whole system. When we have conflicting beliefs they serve to counteract and
contradict each other, canceling each other out, so that neither becomes fully
manifest as a reality, because in order to do so, they must be believable and
form continuity that is in alignment with everything else.
If we set a desire as an outcome that we intend to
create, it not only has to be of a believable nature, but also must exist
without a conflicting belief. If the conflicting believe is of a subconscious
nature, it can be operating in the equation without our direct awareness.
Unconscious beliefs tend to show up more as attitudes which form natural
assumptions, tendencies or expectations. It’s pretty common to see someone who
first set an intention for a desired outcome or experience and in the next
moment prepares themselves for the possibility that it won’t happen. This is a
form of unconscious belief about what’s ‘really” going to happen. The
unconscious expectation, because it is our subconscious mind that governs all
our behavior, tends to create what action or lack of action we take in any given
situation. This is why we can set a goal, then procrastinate or have no real
drive to achieve it. Because deep down inside, we don’t believe it’s really
possible or going to actually happen.
Most of the formula’s for
manifestation do not even emphasize the importance of first creating the proper
state of mind out of which your desired experience will flow naturally and
without effort, nor do they teach you how to identify conflicting beliefs that
will serve to sabotage all conscious endeavors if we don’t understand how they
show up, or what they feel like.
One of the greatest tools that we can develop is our
ability to understand how all things systematically unfold as a series of
natural correspondences as “effects” to an intention which serves as the
“cause”. All manifestations are a living demonstration of the belief that
motivates them. All processes are set into motion by a desire that forms an
intention that serves to construct a pattern as a belief that holds within it a
“theme” for creating it. The Law of Correspondences basically states that a
“feeling” as a belief that originates in the subtle energy field and holds
within it a pattern that acts like a formula for creating it. The feeling
automatically spawns thoughts of a “like” nature which attaches to an emotion
which animates the thought creating a ‘form”. This thought-form is developed in
the imagination as a conceptual reality which can then be acted out in a
believable manner. Once acted out the experience becomes and expression of the
belief that motivated it which establishes it as real and reinforces the feeling
that birthed the entire process. The feeling we get from the type of experiences
we tend to create reveals the beliefs that act to create it that are both
conscious and unconscious.
So anytime we set a desired
intention to create something in our life, and we begin forming a well defined
idea of it, we have to also pay attention to any subtleties that arise in
response to it. Any internal dialogue as a conversation in our head that tells
us a story about all the ways it can fail, or the reason’s why it probably won’t
happen, or the ‘feelings” we have inside that are clearly not congruent with the
emotion that is necessary for the experience. This usually comes in the form of
fear of some kind. We also have to notice if we are setting a subtle expectation
for a probable outcome that is not the fulfillment of our desire. This is most
readily recognized as what we “prepare” for. We say we want one type of
experience, yet we find ourselves unconsciously preparing for the probability of
being disappointed when it doesn’t turn out that way. What we prepare for is a
form of expectation. An expectation is a subconscious belief about what can
possibly happen instead of what we desire to have happen. In order to be
congruent, the intention and the expected outcome must be in alignment, they
must be of the same nature and create a clear pathway for a consistent theme to
emerge spontaneously as an expression.
In
order to create in present, we do not need to go back and rehash the past by
trying to figure out how it has caused the present. Nor do we need to endlessly
revisit mistakes in an attempt to correct them. All we have to do is form a
well-defined idea around what we desire, hold it in our imagination creating it
as an actual experience, and then stay focused on it in each moment as we go
about our ordinary day. All creative ability exists only in the present moment.
Stay in the moment and quit reliving the past or endlessly trying to predict the
future. The future is created based on how we are living right now. When the
conscious mind is “checked out” and endlessly preoccupied with the past or the
future, and is not present, the subconscious mind runs the whole system. The
only function of the subconscious is to maintain existing behavior which it does
by repeating past patterns over and over.
It is a waste of time to keep going back into your past
in order to find answers as to why you are getting what you’re getting
currently. All experience when processed and fully integrated into the system
becomes experienced as feelings. All you have to do in any moment is hold what
you desire in your mind, then pay full attention to your feelings. If you are
feeling good, move in that direction or continue with what you are doing. If it
feels bad, stop and reevaluate. Feelings intended to guide us, can also be
understood in terms of notions, hunches or impressions.
The question also becomes, how
do we accurately identify our feeling states? In order to create a desired
outcome or situation, we have to create a “model” of it to use as a pattern that
is of a “believable” nature. This pattern serves to align the conscious thinking
mind with the subconscious experiential mind. The way to align both minds is
through the creative imagination. When we take a desired idea, hold it in our
mind and imagine it as an actual experience, as if we are living it, it not only
creates a kind of “map” for living it, but also programs the subconscious mind
with an experience of it which makes it believable. All things have to be
believable in order to be created. As we create a believable reality around an
inspired idea, we create it as a feeling. We feel the experience of it in our
bodies as we’re having (imagining) it. This feeling is what allows us to truly
identify the associated components of our desired reality as being of a similar
nature when we encounter them in our everyday life or simply find ourselves
“living them” in the real world. By tuning into how we are feeling at all times,
helps us to identify the true nature of things, regardless of outer appearances.
This is what it means when we say that the mind doesn’t
know the difference between an actual experience and an imagined one. The
creative imagination serves to take a desired experience and through
embellishing it with sensory information develops it into a believable and
livable reality. This also simultaneously helps you to identify any
“conflicting” beliefs that may act as a form of self-sabotage that contradict
and cancels out the desired effect. We can only truly imagine what we believe to
be possible. All visions, in order to be made real, must be of a believable
nature. This is why most processes are best approached in “baby steps” or
progressive increments as “small chunks” that evolve us steadily towards a
higher and larger idea.
If we further look at the subconscious mind as being
connected to the greater mind, or see it as the instinctual mind that is
connected to, and apart of all of nature in general, we can gain an
understanding of how, by programming the subconscious mind, we are also sending
out a request to the instinctual mind which acts to organize things in our
environment that ideally serve to fulfill our desired request as a particular
“type” of experience. This is the fundamental idea behind the Law of Attraction,
or aligning our personal will with the greater will. In doing this, we only
attract those of a like nature and create experience as a cooperative effort
that serve all involved in accordance with their desires in the most beneficial
way possible. By beneficial, I mean most closely aligned to their desires as
made possible by the desires of those they are co-creating with. In this way,
fulfillment usually comes more as an analogy, living metaphor or in a symbolic
way.
So by creating the vision as a living experience
thereby setting an intention for it, the tuning into how we are feeling in every
moment as we walk through our day, helps us to recognize what has the potential
for our desired experience by how we feel when we come into direct contact with
it. When it is in our environment, it activates that same feeling inside of us.
This is important, because many times the answers to our prayers do not come in
the form we have imagined they will, and it is easy to dismiss them or
completely overlook them when they are standing right in front of us. By tuning
into the feeling we can recognize the essential nature as pure possibility in
any given moment. In the ultimate scheme of things . . . it’s all about
feelings. It’s the basis out of which everything emerges as a natural
correspondence.
All spiritual laws exists
as a form of dichotomy – as dual, opposing and complimentary – they provide a
range of expression that has what I call a “fine line”. The fine line exists in
our ability to conceive of them, especially in terms of practical application as
a means of creating experiences by using them intentionally. We hold up an idea
that seems contradictory to our life experiences, yet a part of us knows they
are meaningful and that they hold within their seemingly illusive nature a kind
of secret that if penetrated, would offer us tools to help demonstrate them with
greater precision and accuracy. As we begin “thinking” about it, we realize that
we can’t fully comprehend it conceptually, but instead must perceive it
intuitively. The actual “workings” of it seem almost magical in the sense that
we can watch it and witness its results, but we can’t really seem to actually
explain it, or understand what it’s doing or how it’s doing it.
This is very true when it comes to ideas like the futility of
effort, or how, by trying to figure out what we need, and what we need to do to
make it happen, we literally push the real solutions further away from us, or
find that they elude us completely. Part of this is due to the fact that
whenever we try to “figure something out”, all we really have reference to is
our past memories and experiences and when we bring them forward in an attempt
to piece them together differently in trying to form a new idea and then develop
a strategy for getting it because of imagining what we need but don’t have
already, we look outside our self and take an attitude of going out and getting
it. We try to find it first, and then apprehend it. We focus on and create a
reality out of what’s missing, and then create experiences of it.
Even if we do find what matches our idea of what we need,
regardless of what we expose ourselves to, it usually ends up mocking the past
experiences that we referenced in an attempt to remodel that which originated
the feelings of lack and emptiness that we now seek to fill. They simply
recreate the same type of experiences that cause us to feel the same way.
Because our idea emerged as an expression of absence and past ideas that would
“fill” that absence, we simply create more of what leaves us feeling empty and
wanting.
When we simply accept our situation just as it is, settle
into it and focus our attention on what we have and love and then engage in
“doing” that, we naturally create an experience of fulfillment. We open and
allow things that will give us that type of “feeling experience” to come into
our life. It does this in a seemingly magical way because it takes no effort
what-so-ever on our part. Yet part of the significance lies in the fact that
whatever “state-of-mind” we inhabit, determines not only what we attract, but
more importantly what we are able to see as a result. All we have to do is
notice what is already there, turn and begin interacting with it and allow it to
emerge as a natural experience that takes on a life of its own. When we do this
we realize that it is not a repeated pattern of the past that will create more
emptiness . . . . but rather a brand new idea that attracted to us because we
created a state of giving our full attention to what we love and what was
present with us in the moment. Because of this, it creates immediately in such a
way that causes more of the same feelings . . . love and fulfillment.
To accept is to quit resisting. To quit resisting is to
divert your attention away from what is missing and onto what is present. When
we fail to accept things in our life as they are, we imagine the need to change
them. By perceiving this lack and then thinking about filling it with something
out there, it causes us to not be present with what is. Our only true creative
ability lies in what is present with us in every moment. The feeling that we
allow to inhabit us becomes the motivating force that hooked up with the concept
of “lack” and creates experiences that express lack. This is a fundamental
understanding of the Law: Like begets like. Feelings have whole patterns
inherent within them that structure our experiences to create more of the same
feeling . . . they are living forces that are “self” generating.
When we feel empty or lonely and we experience a kind of
emotional overwhelm that causes desperation to rise up within us. This feeling
of desperation becomes the ‘controlling idea”, which is the true creative power
that motivates the intention that becomes expressed. Whatever we express, we
first create and then experience our own creation. Desperation sets us on a
quest than when fulfilled causes more feelings of desperation. When we engage in
activities that we love doing and in turn cause us to feel content and stay
present (don’t go out looking), we create experiences that cause us to feel love
and contentment.
In my own experience, after going through periods of
intense loneliness, while knowing better than to go out and try to find or
intentionally engage in relationships to satisfy the loneliness, nothing ever
seemed to come into my life. I began wondering and imagining all sorts of
things, and began contemplating the reality of spending the rest of my life
alone. When I did consider a couple of possibilities, I realized that they would
have been more of what I experienced in the past that had caused me to feel
painfully alone. So I passed on them, instead of engaging. I then fully accepted
being alone, and decided to get on with my life and quit thinking about it.
Then, on an
ordinary day, in an unexpected moment, I inadvertently ended up in a casual
conversation with a man, that slowly began consuming me with a deep interest and
feelings of fulfillment. I realized at first, that I loved talking to him, so I
not only continued, but began looking forward to it. Within a very short period
of time, I felt completely swept off my feet with how I felt inside as we came
to know each other. How it happened and with whom it happened would have never even dawned on me had I tried to figure it out and
then engaged in the activity of trying to make it happen. At no point in the
whole process was ‘trying” involved. Everything about it was spontaneous and
natural.
It’s the feeling that we have that
motivates our desire that creates the action, which ultimately shapes the lesson
by creating an experience that gives us more of that same feeling. We have to
pay great attention to what is motivating our desires. We have a tendency to
quest after things that are right next to us, waiting to be known. To understand
attraction in its fundamental form is to realize that all desire has a multiple
range for possible expression all of which exist in our immediate experience.
The state that we are in at any given time, determines what we see and how we
interpret it. All we really have to do, for the most part, is relax, focus on
what we have, what we love doing, engage in doing it, and be willing to not only
notice what shows up in our immediate experience, but be willing to turn around
and start talking to it. Experiences are only possible through a two way interaction. The spark ignites the
fire that warms our heart as it dances softly before us. With adoration and
admiration in our heart and mind, we simply behold it and in the next moment we
realize . . . we are it.
To truly attract is when we
recognize in the feeling state of our environment that not only does like beget
like but that we only perceive that which is like us. If we create out of our
feelings of love, fulfillment and inner peace, we only notice what warrants
those same qualities in others, and by being present with them, they
become a shared experience and lead to the engagement of co-creating more of the
same feelings. In the ultimate sense . . . all of life emerges as an expression
of a feeling state.
We have to always keep in mind
that the body is one of the most sophisticated chemistry labs known. This is
largely due to the fact that as humans, we experience complex emotions that are
not only due to instinctual responses to our environment, but are also largely
self-induced through our thinking and how we perceive things to give them
meaning.
Because chemicals alter the state of the organism, which
greatly influences our thinking, we form habitual thinking patterns that are
naturally associated with our emotions. Because of this, we not only become
addicted to certain emotions, but then attached the same type of thoughts as a
way of interpreting and forming fundamental perceptions that become habitual
also. Our dominant emotional state forms our basic attitude. Our attitude shapes
our approach. Our approach determines the perspective we take and from what
position we look at things. Our predisposition shapes the type of experiences we
have into a consistent theme that forms a predominant meaning . . . that says
‘this is the way life is”.
What shapes the experiences we
have is not the emotion itself, but the type of thoughts we attach to it that
creates a concept of a possible reality that gives it meaning. The meaning
becomes the moral of the story that spontaneously emerges as a natural
expression. The meaning shapes and produces the experience that expresses it
through a story that we first tell ourselves, then we literally call forth by
telling others. We first run it through our imagination, composing it as a
potential reality which serves to program the subconscious with a live
experience, which it then automatically produces as a form of correspondence
(like begets like). The experience may not be exactly as we had imagined it, but
it will ultimately result in the same idea that will induce the same emotional
state.
The reason that we can say that everything that has ever
been “created or invented” began in the imagination, is because the imagination
is where common elements of an inspired idea are brought together and composed
in such a way that they form a believable experience. It is how we first
structure then preview potential realities. Once we form a belief around an
emotional concept, we have a blueprint, or kind of template for producing it. We
create experiences of it, that serves to express it. We move it from the inside
as our personal creation, to the outside as a perceivable experience of our
self.
Because emotions cause motion,
are motivating, they tend to run the system randomly until we learn how to not
only create them, but direct them with our thoughts and how we use our body.
When we learn how to begin cultivating them intentionally and calling them forth
at will, we can begin using them as the powerful expressive tool that they
really are. The emotion that we use to communicate not only to our self
(internal dialogue), but also in communicating with others, is what determines
the reaction we produce which is of a similar nature. Our emotional expression
triggers the same emotions in other. Once we understand this, we can learn to
use them as powerful creative tools with a sense of intention and purpose.
To learn how to first cultivate then direct our emotions
using them intentionally is one of the most valuable skills we can learn.
Nothing else will produce as drastic a shift in your own life, as well as your
skill in communicating with others, than this alone.
There are many
formulas out there for "how to" attract what you want whether it be in love,
life, business or money. But the fact of the matter is we attract based on who
and what we are. To attract something different we have to become different
ourselves.
Who we are is comprised
of a "self-concept" that forms our model of the world, the way things are and
how we exist in relationship & contrast to it. This model of our self is
equivalent to an energetic matrix of archetypal energies that vibrate at certain
frequencies that produce qualities as human characteristics. This vibratory
pattern is our attractive ability. We attract to us, that which is "like" us, of
the same quality vibration. In this, we enter into relationship with those who
have "scripts" in our movie. We attract our leading man / lady, who become our
co-star and we create a story that serves both people.
The confusion can be
around what we mean when we say "like". Like begets like in the sense of
opposite polarity in a single force. We attract our opposite of the same
dynamic. It's the interaction that stimulates and brings out certain qualities
in both people that then form the primary theme of the relationship. Therefore,
those who have abandonment issues, attract the perfect partner whose behavior
can readily be interpreted to create the illusion of abandonment. Someone who is
used to being ignored will attract a mate who behaves in such a way that they
feel ignored. We mimic all aspects of dynamic interactive patterns that we were
conditioned with as children.
In order for this to
change, we have to become aware of our own tendencies, how we interpret certain
behavior to tell the same type story "about" ourselves, and consciously chose to
tell a different story. We have to engage in actively shifting our identity so
that we alter the feeling qualities that we co-create with, and use as a beacon
to attract ideal people to us. Our identity is the core out of which all our
stories emerge as a form of self-expression. We create reality based on what we
believe to be true about our self, others and the world at large.
Just as we have to
"become" the change we desire, we have to become the person we desire to
attract. In order to have a healthier relationship, we have to be willing to
give up our "old stories" and embrace the courage it takes to write a new song!
Then we attract to us the ideal mate to co-create a new reality!
Create an "ideal" of
yourself (higher version) aspire towards it and consistently embody the
qualities to actualize as your highest possibility, and you will attract those
who are ideal to facilitate your unfolding. Relationships are the most
significant growth tools we have. It is only in relationship that we can come to
understand who we are, what our tendencies are, and begin to make conscious
choices to become the kind of person we aspire towards.
Remember:
Relationships are always reflecting back to us what we can't
see on our own. Like "always" begets like.
We attract to us those of the same quality.
What we see in others are our own qualities that we first
project, then recognize, point out and interact with.
Qualities that are NOT of the same nature . . . . we don't even
notice, nothing becomes activated inside of us. We fail to even recognize
them. We only recognize aspects of ourselves in others as well as in our
environment.
Before we can receive knowledge
of the spirit, we must develop certain inner qualities to a high degree. As with
all fundamental perceptions we must begin by cultivating our fundamental
state-of-mind through what we spiritually refer to as the “path of reverence”,
of devotion to truth and knowledge. It is only when we have acquired this
fundamental mood or attitude that the true essence of the underlying nature of
everyday reality can reveal itself to us. Our mood or dominant attitude sets the
pathway through which a series of correspondences naturally emerge. Our
state-of-mind forms the fundamental lens through which we view all of life as
corresponding perceptions.
The qualities that we “see” in others and our environment
are based on the qualities that we have cultivated within ourselves that we use
to activate and form resonance with in our environment. We only see our “self”
in the external world. The only way we can see the true nature of any life form
is by cultivating a loving state of mind that – then seeing only in them what
warrants that feeling. What we see in our environment is what is in us. The same
qualities that make up our true nature are the same ones that we “see” in
everything else. They become the primary lens through which we look.
When we look through the “eyes of love” from the deepest
recesses of our heart, thoughts of criticism or opposition are forbidden and
fail to even arise. When we are filled with feelings of reverence, we create
experiences of “awe” and wonder, as well as a deep curiosity that comes through
a form of fascination. To be gifted with the potential for such feelings as a
natural state, is a blessing.
We have been taught that we should feel reverence only
when it is appropriate or warranted. Yet, it is appropriate in any situation
when it flows from the depths of our heart. To truly be “at cause”, is to first
cultivate and sustain the state that warrants and calls forth qualities of a
like nature. We have the ability, through managing our own mind, to bring out
certain qualities in everything we interact with or place our attention on.
We only find the inner strength to evolve to higher
levels of consciousness when we first inwardly develop this profound feeling
that there is something higher than ourselves, an ideal to aspire towards. We
can lift ourselves to the heights of great knowledge when we allow ourselves to
be guided by our hearts into the depths of veneration and devotion. When we fill
ourselves with a higher feeling of love, then form a devotion only to what
warrants those feelings, we begin living in a state of euphoria and true power.
It is only when we have passed through the gates of humility that we can ascend
to greater heights. In order to obtain higher knowledge, we must first respect
it.
In Spiritual Science it is considered a fundamental law
that every feeling of true devotion unfolded in the soul produces an inner
strength or living force that leads to higher knowledge. In our culture at this
particular time, it is important to give this point our complete attention – in
this day and age we are more inclined to criticize, judge, and condemn than to
feel love, acceptance, devotion and selfless reverence. We criticize far more
than we respect or revere. Though criticism has somewhat served our physical and
material progress, it has come through the loss of higher knowledge and the
practice of spiritual life. We must never forget that higher knowledge has to do
with revering truth and insight and not other people.
For those that are completely immersed in the superficial
culture of our day may find it particularly difficult to work their way to the
cognition of higher worlds. This is because in order to do so, you have to work
energetically on upon yourself. In times of material obsession, spiritual
progress is more illusive. In the age of criticism, ideals are degraded and
raped of their significance. Reverence, awe, adoration and wonder are being
replaced by other feelings and pushed into the background where they seldom go
unnoticed. As a result, everyday life offers little opportunity for spiritual
growth.
Anyone seeking higher knowledge must create these
feelings inwardly by instilling them in the soul, programming them into the
subconscious mind so that they become natural and automatic. This cannot be
achieved through mere study; it must be done through living it. If we wish to
become the students of higher power, we must train ourselves with great
discipline in the mood of devotion. We must learn to seek in all things around
us only the qualities that arouse feelings of admiration and respect.
When we first meet people and we criticize them for their
weaknesses, we rob ourselves of higher cognitive powers. If we seek to
criticize, we see only what warrants criticism, by stepping into that, we
acquire weaknesses and in turn open ourselves to criticism. We gain strength as
qualities only by looking for the good in everything while withholding
criticism. By seeking only what’s admirable, we elicit those qualities in
others, then step into them and apprehend qualities of an admirable nature. We
strengthen our own constitution, while simultaneously strengthening others. To
be empowered, is to simultaneously empower others.
In order for this practice to remain ours, it must take
hold at the inner depths of our soul. The ability to develop and perfect and
gradually transform ourselves lies in our own hands and must take place at our
inner most depths. Just showing respect outwardly towards others is not enough,
we must bring respect and devotion into our “thought life”. We must guard
against any disrespectful, disparaging and criticizing thoughts. We must respect
the power of our thoughts to shape the world around us. We must discipline
ourselves to practice reverence and devotion to a higher ideal in all our
thinking and feeling which will ultimately determine our behavior . . . at all
times as a consistent way of being in the world.
From
a fundamental perception, we do not operate upon the world directly, but
indirectly through our maps or models of the world that serve as a
representation. A model /map can be thought of as a dynamic and congruent
interaction of fundamental beliefs and attitudes about “the way things are”.
Models in the purest sense are magical in the fact that we structure all reality
using them through our sensory interpretations as words, pictures, sounds,
feelings, sensations, smells, etc. All of our experiences are powerfully
influenced and structured based on our models and maps, if we change the map, we
change our experience.
In order to transform our basic personality and
identity allowing for the emergence of new qualities and skills, we must start
by changing our mental constructs and how we frame things. While we know that we
cannot change the everyday life experiences of people, we can change their
internal maps. If we change their internal model of the world, we can change the
nature of their experiences. When we change our internal representations, we
begin identifying with our own thoughts and stories about things, which serves
to transform our identity as a correspondence.
The
mechanics of transformation – involves altering our representational maps of the
world - our mental frames and paradigms. We can readily facilitate this change
through the communication process. Transformation can occur by utilizing a set
of verbal and non-verbal tools that are available to all of us at any given
moment; we have only to learn how to use them effectively. Our fundamental
models are mental constructs that we have formulated in order to make sense of
things, to explain, justify or give things meaning. When we take into
consideration that everything operates according to principles or rules we can
learn how to replicate and model them so that we can touch our own heart and
mind, as well as others. To heal mentally and emotionally is to shift a
fundamental perception so that it no longer maintains the ecology that sustains
the illusion as an indigenous life form.
Magic occurs inside our mind/body system as a modeling
process that provides a map for what we create. We create a form of blueprint or
explicit set of instructions. This magic occurs naturally in the way that we
represent or frame things which determines how we communicate. We always
communicate as an expression of our internal representations of reality as
interpreted through our senses and primary emotional filters. We experience then
inner world then objectify it as the world of sense perception. In this, it
always exists as a model – a way of representing the world as a personal
interpretation.
Each
of us creates a representation of the world in which we imagine ourselves to
live. We create a map that we then use to generate behavior that acts out or
expresses our model “as if” it is true. Based on how we represent the world and
construct a believable model of how it works, determines what choices we
perceive within it. A limited model forms a limited reality which offers little
opportunity for change or prosperity.
Cognitive Behavioral Psychology views human functioning
and behavior as being driven by ideas, strategies, agendas, and our mental
understandings of the “way things are”. We construct our image of reality then
use it as we would a map to maneuver the territory. Epistemology - how we know
what we know – stems from our mental constructs and how we frame things to give
them meaning. While we can say that the map is not the territory it is designed
to represent, we can also say that if correct or somewhat accurate in terms of
having a similar structure, it can prove very beneficial and useful in improving
the quality of our life experiences An impoverished model, will only produce
poverty. A prosperous model . . . . will consistently produce prosperity.
A business model or paradigm serves as the “core Identity”
for creating the culture of the business. A basic business model
is typically comprised of the vision, mission and values which
serve as a form of “map” or blueprint for creating and operating out of.
This serves as the core out of which all other operational aspects
of the business arise as congruent and natural correspondences. A
model provides us with the necessary means to operate with consistency
which is what ultimately produces success, not only in the start-up phase,
but also in the ongoing operations that ensure success over a period
of time. Every aspect of the company design, structure and operational
procedures have got to be congruent with the company’s identity. Just as our
individual “life story” as day-to-day experiences are a direct expression of our
personal identity – a business’s formation and behavior is an
expression of a fundamental model that represents a shared reality in
which everyone has a clear role and specified function that serves as an
inherent aspect of the whole.
A
business map only has value if it embodies a shared reality. The
encoded language used within the culture of the business either reflects a
sense of family and community, or it produces internal conflict
and contradiction. Any area where we create contradiction acts to ‘cancel
out” and impede progress. This is the “one step forward, two steps backward”
scenario that businesses often get caught up in and often don’t know why. Often
business managers, leaders and trainers not only fail to represent the
company as a shared reality, but often fail to use the word “we”
to imply shared objectives. This is very common in private practices that
are set-up and operated by the professional practitioner who is also providing
the service or product of the business. They fail to separate themselves from
the business, and act as if the business and they are the same entity.
They operate out of an “I” model which is non-inclusive and serves
to create a form of “mutiny”. I can’t tell you how many practices I have
been in where the whole staff was “against” the doctor that also own the
practice, or the manager who performed out of a personal agenda of their own
making.
Practices and businesses which ignore the fact that they
are not operating out of a business model that represents a “shared reality” in
which all participants play an equally important role in creating
and delivering a common goal as a team function often, will never be able
to truly achieve the desired outcome, and may never know why. When we
act to impose maps on others rather than inform and teach
them by using them, we create a culture that is often punitive,
autocratic and leaves little room for individuality or new ideas for
growing the business. When this happens not only is it difficult to recognize
and cultivate individual talent and latent potential, motivation
also plummets, and we fail to bond not only clients and customers, but also
staff members of our own team. There is no loyalty or sense of pride involved.
Employees can seem random, alien, and readily come and go through revolving
doors. This is often the greatest expenses a company incurs, and they often fail
to even identify it.
While companies without an effective business model
may flourish for a while, they will eventually crumble, fall apart or exhaust
their primary creator. This reality may not become “terminal” if the
management style can be changed in time – by educating existing managers or
through major reorganization. These changes, however, must be desired and
genuine, or the reorganization will serve to speed the collapse
rather than prevent it.
No matter what style or type of culture the company has, it is
usually set-up and produced by senior managers or professional
partners, and the culture seldom ever changes in a perceivable manner
unless there is major upheaval or pronounced change at this level.
This is why, if you are a professional practitioner or specialist – it is
imperative to create the fundamental model for your business or private practice
in a way that remains fully congruent with your personal values and beliefs.
If your working life seems unduly stressful or chaotic, the first step in
trouble-shooting should be to review your own life “maps” or paradigm in
relation to your business or practice’s culture.
Another situation that commonly happens is that there is a
gradual shift into a new culture over a period of time where you
no longer share the pervading value-set, and conflict begins to set in
that disrupts the daily organizational flow. This easily occurs
when a practitioner either hires a manager who is not aligned with their
vision, mission and values of the practice (because they lack managerial skill
in selecting staff that are most appropriate), or they hire key staff members
who lack leadership ability and set-up unconscious and incongruent
cultures of their own that begin dominating the daily operations.
Alternately, the actual day-to-day operations may be in
conflict with, or at odds with the declared mission and vision and
either no one recognizes it until it is too late, or if they do, they
don’t have the skill or knowledge to effectively change it. Often,
however, just recognizing the mismatch can be enough to ease the stress, but if
an effective resolution can not be determined and implemented, it can
cause great frustration. Once problems are recognized solutions must be sought
after in an expedient manner that will provide the training and
reorganizing strategy necessary to actually produce the desired
result or outcome. This requires not only a fundamental understanding of the
creative process, but a high degree of skill in
execution. Behavioral modification in a business, much like in an
individual has to take place at the identity level. Once a business is
established and has formed its basic habitual behavior, this can be very
challenging and requires the utmost skill to perform effectively. If you do
not have the resources and skill necessary, a professional
whose expertise lies in this area will be necessary.
Framing is basically how we create the context of any given situation or
idea that serves to organize not only “how” we look at it, but
also what we see as a result, and how we feel about what we see.
It usually “orientates” the experience we create with either a
positive or negative format. How we look at it determines whether we
see hope, possibilities and avenues that cause us to feel good, or whether or
not it appears hopeless, scary and causes us to feel bad. Naturally one of the
easiest ways of identifying “framing” styles or tendencies is through
what we typically refer to as optimism or pessimism.
We typically have a preferred way of
looking at things as a general attitude that then determines our
approach, which we then simultaneously identify with. How we look at
and approach things, first serve to express, then support, reinforce and
validate . . . while simultaneously fashioning our identity. Our
Identity is the main filter through which all of our self-expression and
perceptions emerge naturally as a correspondence. When we walk into any
situation, what is our tendency? Do we see the good, or the bad? Do we naturally
see what is right and working well? Or do we see what is wrong and needs fixing?
A more important question would be, what feeling does each ‘frame-of-mind’
cause or give us?
We don’t want to get caught up in the
natural tendency to become side-tracked with endlessly explaining, or attempting
to justify our right to be negative, pessimistic or “problem” oriented. All we
want to notice is the feeling that we get based on our own perceptions,
as well as the feelings we activate in others based on how we present
or communicate ideas, recapture events, or by how we interact with and treat
them as a result.
Basic human motivation
is instinctual (largely unconscious) and subliminal. We do it
automatically without direct awareness or a distinct thought process. We
naturally move ‘towards’ what feels good, expanding, opening,
relaxing and increasing – while moving ‘away’ from what feels bad,
avoiding it, pulling back, stopping or becoming idle. What we focus on, give our
attention to, feel and think about, we automatically begin developing into
detailed scenarios in our imagination that we then run over and over in a
compulsive manner. Our behavior stems unconsciously out of our feeling
thoughts. We then create experiences that correspond to, or are of the same
nature as what we have imagined. The imagination serves
to create a concept as a believable reality that gives us a behavioral pattern
to act it out and create an experience of it.
A good skill to practice, especially if you are in a
position of leading, teaching, inspiring or developing others, is to take any
subject and before you approach someone, ask yourself how you can present the
idea or interact with them in a way that will produced the desired result. How
can you approach what may be fundamentally negative in a positive way that will
produce a positive feeling in the person your communicating with? How can you
present something in a way that keeps the focus on the solution or what you want
them to actually do, without pointing out a mistake or what they did wrong? Take
any situation that has a negative feeling, and see if you can change your
perspective and “reframe” it, or re-present it in a way that feels positive, or
causes them to feel optimistic.
Example:
-Instead
of stating, you missed 5 out of a hundred, you say you got 95 correct out of a
possible hundred.
-Original
statement: 10% of all people in California are unemployed. Reframe: 90% of all
the people in California are currently employed!
-If
you see an employee doing something wrong: Instead of pointing out and talking
about the problem or mistake and then asking who trained them (smile). . . .
simply offer to show them how to do it the right way, and see it as an
opportunity to build a relationship with them that involves a sense of trust and
comradely.
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