Sex – Why is the Topic of Sex so Taboo?

     Why does the topic of sex make people so uncomfortable? We seem to have more issues, judgments and inhibitions around this area of our life than any other. Most of us have been raised with a repressed sex life. Religious icons have been presented as being pure in nature because they openly deny their sexual nature. Many have been told that sex, and even thoughts of sex, are basically sinful, and something you shouldn’t do or have. This not only creates endless inhibitions motivated by shame and guilt, but also set the premise for feeling ashamed of our bodies which is the vehicle through which we have sex, crave it, and ultimately feel satisfied by it.

      Yet at the energetic level, as our primary nature, sex is our life-force energy. Our sexual energy is the energy of life itself. Sexual behavior governs all of life as we know it. Perhaps the real question is what you choose to do with your sexual energy. It is the intention which directs the behavior that defines the nature of the experience. You can certainly use it in sinful ways that breed the taboo aspects, or you can use it for the power it possesses to achieve the highest peaks of consciousness that we know of. Like all energy and natural forces that pervade all of life as the basic tools for self-expression, it all depends on how you use it. It is neutral and void of meaning until we shape and direct it with our emotional thoughts that motivate and imbue behavior with like qualities to create certain types of experiences.

       Sex, in its primary state, is bioelectricity, and just as electricity exists as a neutral uncontained force in nature - when contained, channeled and directed, it can be used to light a house, cook a meal, or cook a man – it’s the same force used in a different way, with a different intention. The intention that we embody while engaging in sex shapes its meaning and determines the nature of the experience we create as a result.

        The first principle that must be employed is to not condemn it. Whatever we condemn we can’t use effectively or use as a creative force in an intentional manner. The intent for it, as well as the feelings around it become clouded and blocked, preventing its potential for higher forms of expression. The moment you condemn anything, you can’t use it – you set up a natural resistance to it – you create conflicting thoughts and emotions that serve to cancel it out, or corrupt its power by forming guilt and shame around it which are inhibiting forces.  Negative emotions serve to contract, pullback, endlessly censor, and ultimately prevent.

       Sex and our sexuality needs to be viewed as a perfectly natural part of life. It is through sex that extreme levels of fulfillment are possible through peak experiences. It should be viewed as a basic human need. Sex is love expressed with our whole body, our whole being. Sex when joined with meditation, changes the entire nature of the experience by concentrating it with extreme body awareness and presence. Sex without a concentrated mind, simply creates lust and bares children. Sex with meditation can birth you and your partner as whole new human beings. The sexual peak of orgasm formed the basis for meditation as an original practice by the Yogi’s who wrote erotic love poems to the Beloved (God) and coined the term “Bliss” as ecstasy. It is the most natural experience for achieving ecstatic emotion void of thoughts. It’s pure pleasure as experience.   

 Linda Gadbois, Ph.D.(c) CCHt., RMT

Teacher & Mentor for Sacred Sexuality and Personal Transformation

Sex - Transcending the Self

        Relating deeply to another person, entails, in one way a strange kind of death – of letting go, relaxing into, and breaking down barriers created by the ego. It is only through the death of our ego, that we are able to be reborn into a higher form of conscious freedom. The “I” is reborn as “we”.  We indicates much greater expansion and personal freedom. Through various forms of relationship we joyfully plunge into the world of another. Through sex and the intimacy it brings, we expose parts of ourselves, normally hidden, often even to ourselves.

       Through sex and the act of sensuous love-making, we are able to experience the most immediate and joyful form of self-transcendence - the Divine union of our “self” with another “self”. In the burning heights of ecstasy we readily abandon and often completely forget ourselves while merging deeply with another. This is why the orgasm is referred to as the “little death”.  In the moment of heightened pleasure, we become fully present in our bodies, consumed in the intensity of the moment and all thoughts are swept from our mind and we relish in pure experience as our greatest pleasure.

       Relationships are the greatest and most natural catalyst for change. We change in a relationship without even recognizing it.  Intimate relationships have an immediate a deep influence over us.  It cleanses and regenerates by calling to the surface any unresolved, unconscious issues from previous relationships, that are a result of bonding issues around our father and mother. 

        Of all relationships we have, the first one, with our Mother is the most highly charged, influential and psychologically significant.  It marks our imprinting by creating issues around survival and fulfillment dynamics of a primarily emotional nature that form the basis of all intimate relationships throughout our lives. Because our Mother cares and protects us, she represents the most basic form of survival that becomes deeply imprinted in the psyche. The loss of our Mothers love represents abandonment and death both emotionally and physically.  Our relationship with our Mother forms the most basic pattern that is continually reflected in all other relationships, regardless of their nature.  It is only by becoming aware of unresolved fears that we can express and release them.

       In intense relationships we descend into the depths of our being and discover our most primordial instinctual inheritance – envy, shame, greed, jealously, guilt, anger, prowess, rage, passion – our need and pattern of fulfillment around issues of power and control.  Often there are destructive or self-sabotaging fantasies lurking just beneath the surface of what seems like an otherwise calm surface.  Most problems stem from a denial of our instinctual, animalistic tendencies which we were taught to shame and feel guilt around. By embracing these and finding a healthy expression, we can cleanse them.  We cannot transform something we condemn because we deny it.  Anything we deny, we project and create self-hate around.  The hatred forms a kind of toxicity that poisons everything without our awareness.  The dark side of our nature, which is most prominent sexually must be brought forth in order to be consciously purged so we can be born again fresh and revitalized.

       Whenever we deny or repress our dark side, we contain and hold a vast reservoir of psychic energy. To first recognize, acknowledge and then own our dark nature does not mean that we have to act on them indiscriminately, but rather choose to express them with greater awareness by finding an appropriate outlet.  By owning and accepting them, we can choose to contain them, or find other means of expressing them that will be mutually satisfying with our partner. We hold unconscious energy in our bodies.  By owning them, gaining full awareness around them, we can free them for other means of expression. We can discharge the trapped energy from our body.  By diverting it into other forms of expression, we can integrate it back into the psyche in a healthy manner.

       Whatever script we run through our minds as the primary story we tell that illustrates our beliefs as our personal version of reality, we form a vibrational match that attracts to us the fulfillment of the dynamic as an energetic pattern. Through psychic determinism – we have the mysterious and innate ability to attract into, and be attracted by the very people and situations that provide the ideal means for expression.  Our dynamics, patterns that we were imprinted with during our formative years, become vibratory frequencies that act like beacons that send out signals and flag down anything of the same quality and nature.  We attract to us unconsciously the perfect people to act out our dynamics.

      When we engage in intimate sexual relationships, things that we are not consciously aware of still impose an influence energetically.  By engaging in sexual intimacy, our energy field literally merge, bond and become of the same nature as the other. Sometimes we can sense things about ourselves that we can’t perceive intellectually as a general rule, and it helps provide us with the tools to become more self-aware.  We also experience our greatest inhibitions, fears and limitations during intimate sexual encounters. By resolving them with a loving partner, we can automatically heal the same inhibitions in all areas of our lives, particularly in the areas of creativity, personal power, self-confidence and money.

       By first recognizing and experiencing ourselves more fully through intimate encounters, we can then work through issues that bind and control us without our awareness. By working through and releasing these, we can experience a whole new level of freedom through truly merging with another and loosing all sense of ourselves as separate and apart.  We literally become one with our lover symbolically, emotionally and physically.  At no other time do me have the opportunity to fully merge energetically and spiritually with another than through loving sex that creates deep feelings of intimacy and vulnerability.  Energy blends energy through resonance much more readily than any other aspect of our being.  Sex that is physically pleasurable, emotionally gratifying, creates a deepened sense of intimacy and connection, allows us to express love at deeper and more profound levels, which is also passionate and exciting, is the most beautiful holistic experience we can have.  Nothing is more fulfilling than feeling apart of something greater than ourselves that we love and adore and feel completely devoted to.

 Linda Gadbois, Ph.D., CCHt.

Education, Training and Mentoring for Sacred Sexuality and Personal Transformation

Sexual Energy -  “Arousing Passion”

       Sexual energy is the energizing, arousing, excitable energy of our system. It is also our primary “creative energy”. It not only has a strong motivational quality – compelling us to “to do” something, become active – but also has the added quality of enticing us towards pleasurable activities, ones that are playful, enjoyable, sexy, or artistic in some fashion. They encourage us towards forms of self-expression that we find very fulfilling. It arouses and stirs our natural feelings of passion for life itself. When we are feeling passionate, we tend to gravitate towards natural beauty, music, arts, things that we love and feel strongly about engaging in. We engage in areas of our life that offer deeper meaning and bring an over-all sense of well-being.

       Sexual energy also has the quality of creating a desire to connect, to merge or become part of our own creation. To become fully present in the moment with what we are creating. This induces a natural state of what we call “flow”. Flow is when we are so present with our creation that we loose all sense of our self as an individual, as separate and apart from our creation, that we feel one and the same with creation itself. We become fully present in our body, aware of only the moment, and time itself ceases to exist. This is a very euphoric feeling that creates a form of inner calm that is hard to describe with words, its “pure form” as essential experience without a thought process. We create a true feeling of oneness which feeds our souls relentless longing to reconnect with our source, to become apart of something greater than ourselves. We are at once the creator, the creation, while have the experience of creating.

        In the energy system of the body, represented by the “chakras”, sexual energy is considered the second chakra, the one governing the sexual organs of the ovaries and testis, the areas of our body involved in pro-creation. This naturally is the area of the body that we feel an arousing, exciting sensation in whenever we activate this energy. If you place both thumbs on your belly-button, facing each other, lay your hands on your abdomen and form a downward triangle or heart-shape by touching your index fingers, you are identifying the approximate location of this energy center.

      There are several ways to easily and intentionally activate this energy. We activate it anytime we want to use it intentionally to stimulate or arouse the rest of our system, or to bring a strong form of passionate motivation to other areas of our life. Always keep in mind that energy is directed and shaped by the imagination. As you do these exercises, concentrate on feeling the stimulation in your body and allow it to feel very “sexy”. Energy is experienced as feeling sensations or “qualities” that stimulates emotions and thought processes of the same nature.

Here are 3 easy and basic ways to stimulate and build the sexual energy:

1.     When making a triangle starting at your belly-button pointing down, relax and slightly bend your knees, and start a slight rhythmic bouncing up and down centering yourself out of your pelvic area. Then take your hands in the heart-shape and smack your abdomen vigorously to the beat of your bounce. Smack it very firmly and just shy of hurting. So that it stimulates this area of the body. This is best done to music or in a rhythmic flow. Do for 5-10 minutes.

2.     Vagina squeeze: Stand with knees slightly bent, pelvic relaxed, and consciously squeeze or tighten vaginal /groin muscles in and upward (rocking pelvis), hold, then out and downward. This is what we call “making babies” J. Again, allow your body to feel erotic and sexy while doing this. For added “toning”, tighten buttocks at the same time while squeezing in and up, then relax when going down and out. Do this for 3-5 minutes at a time.

3.     Pelvic dancing: Put on music with a strong rhythmic beat, and dance erotically concentrating on moving your pelvic and hip area with extreme range of motion. Not only back and forth, but in and out, around in circles, or making a figure ‘8”. This is not only fun to do, it will immediately elevate your mood as well as energize the rest of your body. Do it for as long as you like or have time for.

      Sexual energy is extremely beneficial not only for feeling sexy, more alive and passionate, but for inducing “highly creative states”. It’s the “quality” of passion as a deep desire for personal expression that can be channeled into a variety of activity increasing not only the creativity and playfulness that we bring to our actions, but also the pleasure we experience in doing it. This is the best energy for igniting the creative imagination causing ideas of a pleasurable nature to spontaneously arise and flow freely without inhibitions. It arouses and channels life force into any area of our life or system that we choose to direct it into with our intention and thoughts.

"We jokingly say . . . this is the reason's Yogi's stand on their heads . . . trying to get the sexual energy to flow down into the 3rd eye (Imagination) to energize their thoughts with a euphoric quality that will make them very compelling."

Flash Dance . . . take your passion and make it happen!!

Sexual Energy is what brings feelings of intensity and Passion to what we love doing. It's the exciting, stimulating "arousing" quality that give great motivation to ideas making them very compelling.  :-)

Karmic Relationships - Finding the Balance Within

Though we can say that all relationships are Karmic (cause & effect), ones that stem from previous lives together are always marked with emotional intensity of some form. Karmic relationships offer our greatest lessons for learning and resolving issues, or bringing an opportunity for forgiveness in areas we have failed to resolve in the past. The lessons that are "karmic" in nature, will be deep, personal and will require us to tap into latent potential and inner strength to resolve.

This does not mean that they are negative in nature, simply intense and activate strong emotional reactions in us of dynamic patterns that are still alive within us, this is why we have carried them forward.

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Sacred Sexuality: Foundation

Sacred sexuality describes the sexual relationship between two people that have established deep feelings of love, trust and creative expression. It should only be considered and taken up in committed long-term relationships. This is an art-form that brings creativity, sensuousness, and eroticism into loving expression through intimate union and the merging of energy fields into one frequency that is shared, established and maintained. It describes and symbolizes intimate sexual union as the union with God or the Universal Life Force.

Basic ideas that you must always keep in mind:

·    Should only be undertaken in a committed relationship. The ultimate goal or experience is that of intimacy and spiritual union. This requires a deep level of trust and consciousness by both partners. This is an experience of total presence, heightened awareness and full participation.

·     The orgasm is not the ultimate goal in and of itself. The desired goal is the ability to build and then maintain extreme levels of pleasure and absolute presence that is experienced in conscious union with another that creates true wholeness. This is the closest we can come to merging, fusing and melding into another while still inhabiting separate bodies.

·     You must understand and take into consideration the nature and powerful effects of energy transmission and integration. The basis of sexual union and energetic sympathy is an energetic transfusion or exchange. You want to be very conscious of selecting a partner of high character and elevated qualities. The union should heighten, increase and expand the energetic quality of both by forming resonance that moves it to a "higher state" forming coherence.

·    Intimacy and emotional connection through sexual union is the greatest desire of all human beings. We have to be aware that it is not something that only takes place in the bedroom, sexual intimacy is on ongoing practice that marks the basic expression of the daily relationship itself, of which the sexual act is but one aspect.

·    In the relationship itself we practice higher consciousness by cultivating a loving state-of-mind and focusing on what it is that warrants love, adoration, admiration, respect, honor and reverence in each other. This develops a feeling of devotion. Love and devotion cultivated and maintained for another, creates love and devotion for our self as well as makes "us" the living expression of love and devotion in physical form (a channel for it to flow into the world forming influence).

·    Sexual union is a metaphor or symbolic action for the nature of the relationship itself as practiced in an ongoing, moment-by-moment, daily basis.

·   This is why it has become traditionally symbolized as marriage through Divine union that was consummated with sexual union that produced an offspring that was born in the image of both people as a single entity. This is the true significance of the trinity – the One that exists in polarity as dynamic and magnetic aspects of itself that interact in order to self-actualize. The single mind comprised of heart and brain, right and left hemisphere’s that interact in tandem creating personal experience as subjective reality. Represented by: 1+1=3

The Vesica Piscis or Mandorla.

The Vagina, or Yoni, represents the doorway to the center of the Universe – to the “G” spot – the experience of God. Ever notice how the most common thing we all say when having an orgasm is . . . “Oh God!” There is a reason . . . believe it or not. J

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Creative Expression Through Love-Making

When we bring creativity into love-making it becomes erotic and sensuous and very self-gratifying. To find powerful forms of self-expression is one of the most euphoric feelings we can have. Strong expressions of love and desire for our lovers help form intimate bonds that often last a life-time.

"Enchanted"

by: Linda Gadbois

"Starstuff"

by: Linda Gadbois

Creative Sexuality – “Sensuous Expression”

        All experience in the ultimate sense is a form of imagination or personal interpretation of neutral facts that determine what qualities we imbue things with, which create certain types of experiences. We could safely say that sex is 80% imagination, even when we are actually having it. How we use our mind to create the experience, determines the level of pleasure it offers as a result. Like most things, if we have bad, mundane or uninteresting experiences it’s a direct reflection of our own creative ability and mental attitude to a certain extent. If we simply blame it on our lover, we are not only making a fundamental error in our thinking, but we are missing the opportunity to exercise deeper forms of physical expression by how we first imagine it, “get into it”, act to provoke it, or how we go about it.

       The basis of Sacred Sexuality is to bring heightened awareness, absolute presence and a kind of meditative quality of sensory pleasure and spontaneous exploration to the sexual act. As with all of life, we are responsible for creating our own experiences. If we know how to do this and learn to practice it masterfully, our sex life and ability to create intimate experiences by feeling at one with our lover, sex becomes enlivening, fresh, and fills us with deep feelings of desire, openness, and vulnerability. It never becomes boring, ritualistic or mundane, even though our sexual life goes through cycles and stages just like every other aspect of our life does. Each experience is perceived as new, immediate and fully open to whatever the moment calls for. Spontaneity and provocative playfulness must be maintained and encouraged.

       Sex is meant to be fulfilling at all levels of our being, not just with the aim of having an orgasm. In Sacred Sexuality, the orgasm is not the actual goal. It is the ability to become fully enthralled with sensuous pleasure that we consciously build and intensify while holding and maintaining it at a heightened level of pleasure that is just short of the actual orgasm. This not only increases our ability to handle more intense forms of energy, but allows us to feel intense pleasure for extended periods of time, rather than a quick fix, or sex that lasts 5 minutes. In Kundalini, we must develop the ability to handle much stronger currents of energy without blowing a circuit. Tantra teaches us how to do this.

       Sex as an experience of intense love, is extremely gratifying emotionally, as affection that is deeply nourishing, mentally comforting, and promotes feelings of safety that allow for complete surrender and abandon, which is only possible through intimate trust and acceptance by and of our lover. As with all creative expression we have a range that serves a variety of moods – whether sweetly and with great tenderness, or playfully teasing and flirting . . . or aggressive and somewhat animalistic. Whatever serves the imagination and seems appropriate in the moment as a playful and erotic dance between sensuous lovers that is born in the moment and allowed to take on a life of its own.    

       To meditate during sex, or intimate moments of giving and receiving warm delicious affection, is to relax into your body, turn your attention inward and become fully engrossed in the physical sensations that are consuming you with tantalizing pleasure. To focus on the sensuous experience of touch, texture and temperature, wet and moist, or soft and dry . . . or the exotic image of beauty, dreamy and impressionistic, soft flowing curves with no distinct lines. Perhaps your inner response to the smell of warm skin, and the moist breath falling around you like morning dew teasing your mouth to explore and lick as if caressing with your fingertips. Get lost in the moment, and allow time to stand still and disappear from your awareness. Step into the flow and allow your body to respond intimately to/with your lovers every move.

       Allow the energy to move through you, as you. Don’t try to contain it, hold it back or make it wrong. Instead allow and encourage by how you respond to it. Be present in the midst of intense pleasure while holding it in your body for prolonged periods. Build and intensify, then hold momentarily . . . then relax. Teach your body how to hold higher levels of pleasure without exploding and expanding. Relish in it and allow it to consume you with complete abandon. Then, when you do decide to have your orgasm together, it will reach higher levels of intense pleasure, while lasting much longer. You will be able to experience the intensity of an orgasm for longer periods while not becoming overwhelmed. You will literally train your body and mind how to have greater and greater levels of pleasure. And the best part . . . you share it with your lover as the greatest gift of love, co-created as pure experience.  

Tantra - Kundalini

Sexual Energy is the "Life Force" that fuels and arouses the entire system. It's the movement of polarity as the primal flow of life force that seeks self-expression through self-actualization as pure pleasure. Opposites attract, gravitate towards one another in a form of swirling dance, that seeks union with another as the experience of itself. To feel apart of something greater than ourselves is the relentless longing in every human's heart for the experience of wholeness and ultimate love.

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Kundalini - "Primary Life Force"

All of life can be described as a motivating force that is constantly in the state of "becoming" by self-creating.

When two bodies and spirits connect in an erotic embrace - their bodies unite as one - they can literally feel the other inside of them in a rhythmic flow is one of the greatest pleasures we can know, and it is the only thing that will truly satisfy us in a lasting and deeply meaningful way. It responds intimately to the craving in our hearts.

Awakening Your Inner Lover – “Experiencing Pleasure”

        All experience is first created in the imagination as a reflection of our “mood” or state of mind.  We create an inner experience that becomes the organizing factor of our outer experience.  We create it on the inside, then project out onto our environment and create a corresponding expression through how we “emotionally interpret” things to give them meaning.  The meaning forms the basis for the “type” experience we create as a result.  This is the fundamental basis of “self-expression”. Our true creative ability lies in our capacity and skill for creating desired experiences.  We do this primarily by first recognizing what “feeling” we are longing for, then placing our attention on that feeling, holding it in our mind’s eye, noticing what the sensation is in our body, and allowing a kind of story to emerge out of it as a natural expression that is allowed and uncensored. The story demonstrates what type of experience will give us that feeling. Feelings have whole stories inherent in them as part of their archetypal nature.

      Our ability to not only imagine vividly, but experience fully comes by way of awakening our senses and using them to create intoxicating sensual experiences of a deeply erotic nature.  We have to marry eros to logos, use the emotional quality to fill and activate the mental impression.  Bring back our sensuality as a means of animating mental images with provocative qualities of being that excite and enliven us.  Qualities, embodied and expressed sensuously enhance our ability to cultivate deeply gratifying states of erotic beauty while exercising our creative powers to first create our internal state, then express ourselves, while having the experience our own creation. 

      Because we live in a society that is largely left-brained, overly intellectual and addicted to technology, we often lack the emotional skills and awareness necessary to directly connect to and become apart of our environment.  Our ability to feel fully present in our bodies while merging with our immediate experience has become dulled and unpracticed.  This has resulted in the resigned, lack-luster society that endlessly indulges in mundane mediocrity and has settled into a lifeless existence that we call normal.  We must retrain our minds to embrace our sensual nature and the pleasure that comes from learning how to increase our emotional energy that arouses our mind igniting our imagination with a sense of passion.  When we become passionate thinkers, the life we create is intoxicating and erotic, vivid and seductive, relentlessly calling us on.  No place is this ability more enriching than when we engage fully in the art of love-making.

       So we begin by intentionally creating the experiences designed to awaken our senses and enliven our bodies with erotic sensations that arouse our soul to higher states of consciousness.  Merging with the Beloved, becoming one with God, is symbolized by the experience of blending into another and loosing ourselves in euphoric states of eternal bliss. The experience of intense love that consumes the mind, body and emotions through a heightened and prolonged orgasm serves as a metaphor for the intense pleasure of merging back into and becoming one with our Creator. As above, so below, in our sexual experiences, like all of life, we are at once the creators, the creation itself, while having the experience of our creation. No place is this more evident than embracing the love of creating while seeking atonement of mind, body and spirit into the same act.

     In order to do this we must retrain our mind and body to work in-sync and increase our ability to receive pleasure, give it and become one-with it. Like learning the skills necessary for becoming the creator of any art-form, we must develop the ability for heightened sensory experience, and the ability to cultivate and maintain deep forms of pleasure for prolonged periods of time.

 Exercise for enhanced sensory pleasure of the body/mind:

·    Decide on what type of experience you wish to create – either as an expression of your current mood, or by embodying the qualities necessary to “create” your mood.

·    Create the proper ambiance for the “type” of experience desired so that it will unfold naturally. The environment that will elicit the same mood in your lover. This can be low lighting, candles, burning incense or potpourri, soft music, sexy attire or partial nudity, etc. (Think in terms of invoking as many senses as possible – visual, sound, smells, touch, taste, etc.)

·    Create the proper setting or stage – arrange the bed, use soft blankets, or silky sheets, arrange a place on the floor, someplace where you have full access to their body, and they to yours.

·        Have your lover put on a blind fold (removes distractions), and lay comfortably relaxed propped up by pillows. The visual aspect should be in what is being imagined through the other senses. Your lover has to fully receive the pleasure you are giving them, and their only response is in showing you what they like by moaning or moving their body (this way you get to know their pleasure zones).

·    In using touch and feeling sensations, think of as many different forms of touch that you can that are all done with your body. Fingers, hands, nails, running your body along theirs, pressing with different intensities, using the tip of your tongue, whole tongue, tickling, licking and sucking, gentle biting, stroking with your hair, blowing on their skin, etc.

·    Using sound intentionally as a form of expression, make a variety of sounds that match the touch. Soft lingering moans, deep breathing, grunting, deep belly sounds, whispering sexy gestures, giggling, deep sighing, and whatever else feels right in the moment. Or match the touch to the rhythm of whatever music is playing.  

·  As you explore with your face and mouth, you take in all the smells and tastes. Become familiar with them. Associate them to your feelings of sexual arousal and how incredible it feels to give pleasure to your lover. Explore and taste all areas of their body while making sounds that express your pleasure.

· Then, after fully explored and consumed, switch roles, and start again. :-)

        Practice this, or experiences similar to this and it will allow your body to come alive, your emotions to soar, and your mind to feel the deep pervading sense of inner peace as the sweet afterglow of desire satisfied fully with deep feeling of love expressed with the body.  The greatest healing power there is, is the energy directed through human touch while filled with deep feelings of love.  While we tend to describe “human needs” in terms of physical survival, loving touch, energy infused with emotions of love and directed with intention, is the greatest healing power there is, and the primary “spiritual need” of our soul.

Tantra and Love

Tantra is the practice of mastering the sexual energy of the body commonly referred to as the "Kundalini" or "serpent energy" because of it's "arousing" sensation and it's ability to increase the "life force" energy not only of the body itself, but all the other energy centers that it passes through and activates them to full velocity.

When it is cultivated in sexual union between two people, it allows the experience of true intimacy, union and energetic integration of two people that is the real basis for spiritual freedom and enlightenment. The act of uniting fully and completely with another is symbolic of uniting with our Universal Source.

It requires us to master the primary fears and inhibitors that prevent us from fully expressing in the world. That cause us to close down or reduce the amount of energy we are capable of allowing to flow through our body without overwhelming us, driving us mad, or "burning" us out. We learn how to manage a much greater capacity for life force energy to move through us and into the world.

Artful Love-Making

When we bring an attitude of sensuality to affectionate moments, they become beautiful, expressive and highly enlivening. Nothing causes us to become more fully present than when we are experiencing deep forms of pleasure with our body.

To give and receive love through "touch" is the greatest healing force their is. Energy flows not only where thoughts go, but activate the same "quality" of the thoughts. When we are in a very loving state-of-mind, we only perceive what warrants love and adoration. When we touch another while in that state, the quality of energy is transferred into them, activating the same qualities. Nothing heals the human spirit like being "touched" with the vibratory essence of pure love in physical form. 

Sexy - Sensual Music

Create the proper environment . . ambiance, Create a sensual experience, incense, subdued lighting for soft lines . . . dress in something that makes you feel incredibly sexy . . . then embody the rhythm of the music and "let it dance you" . . .

"Take My Breathe Away . . . "

"Love to Love Ya Baby . . . "

Seductive Love-Making

Create the proper environment to set the mood . . . include as many "sensual" effects as possible . . . lighting effects, incense or scented candles, soft silky material, essential oils or perfumes in selected spots on your body designed to "lead" and entice . . . . . play seductive music, make sensuous sounds, as you move your body and use your hands artistically . . . and move seductively to the rhythm of the music . . . 

"Tell Him . . . . "

"When a Man Loves a Woman"

"Hello . . . "

"Lady"

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